Boudoir sessions are an incredible way to feel empowered in your own skin–but it can definitely put you out of your comfort zone, especially if this is your first time! Here are a few tips and recommendations to help you prepare to feel comfortable and prepare for your boudoir session.
Consent is Key: Your Experience in my Studio
The first and foremost thing I want you to know is that Consent is Key in my studio. I want you to feel safe with me and feel like you can trust me. I pride myself on creating an environment where you can be yourself and not feel pressured to do anything that you don’t want to do.
When you come in, I’ll typically have snacks and drinks available. (A little food and a beverage can help a person relax!) We’ll play some music to get us pumped up, and we’ll have a conversation before you even change into your outfits. During this chat, I’ll ask you what physical features you love and want emphasized and which features you’d rather not highlight. We’ll also talk about what poses you’re comfortable doing–sitting, standing, on your back or front, etc.
Throughout our shoot I’ll direct and guide you through poses. If at any point you’re uncomfortable, you can let me know and I will stop immediately, no questions asked, and pivot to something more in your comfort zone. Likewise, while I try to keep my language neutral and respectful, if there are specific things that I say that you’re not comfortable with I will always respect that with no judgement. (For instance, some folks don’t like to be called “love” or “dear” which are terms I sometimes use.)
No matter what, as long as you and I are clearly communicating about our boundaries in a respectful way, we’re going to have a great time!
What should I bring with me?
- Outfits: For a one-hour shoot, I recommend bring 1-3 outfits. For a mini-session, I recommend just one outfit. You’re also welcome to bring more than that and we can talk through the options together!
- Extras and Accessories: Shoes, garters, robes, stockings, knee-high socks, jewelry, etc. You can also bring something of your partner’s–like a button down shirt–to wear, or an oversized sweater.
- Lotion, Make-up, Hairbrush, Bobby pins, Hair ties, etc: Keeping your skin moisturized is always a good idea (especially here in Colorado) and bringing extra make-up and hair supplies is great for touch-ups between shots or outfits.
- Water and Light Snacks: I’ll have an assortment of snacks and drinks with me, but if you’ve got specific preferences feel free to bring them!
Where to Find Outfits
A boudoir shoot doesn’t necessarily need to be sexy lingerie. You can wear anything that makes you feel strong and beautiful! For some folks, that’s comfy sweaters or shorts with an open flannel shirt. For some, that’s a cute lingerie set. And for some–it’s tastefully nude! All are welcome here!
For lingerie, here are a few of my favorite places to shop:
Boudoir Prep Timeline
4 Weeks Out
- Dream up your concept and ideal outfits! Are you going for cute, coy, sexy, sweet, sultry? I can help you plan and sketch out vibe you want to go for.
- Go shopping! Find the outfits and accessories you love, and make sure to order them with enough time to try them on and exchange them if needed.
3-5 Days Out
- Skin care: if you’re planning to exfoliate, wax, or shave, now’s the time to do it! You want to do this a couple days ahead of time so any redness on your skin has time to chill out.
- Make sure you’re moisturizing every day leading up to your shoot!
- STAY HYDRATED! I mean, you should always be staying hydrated. But especially now so that your skin has a nice glow to it!
- Remove any tags from your outfits, even the sewed on/attached ones.
- Treat yourself to a mani/pedi 😉 Guys too! You don’t need to paint your nails to enjoy the benefits of nicely trimmed nails, cleaned-up cuticles, and a nice hand/foot massage. Plus, it’s just kinda fun.
- If you’re doing your own hair and make-up do a trial run to make sure that you know what you’re going to do on the day of.
The Night Before
- Make sure your boudoir bag is packed
- Avoid a lot of alcohol and salty foods
- Get a good night’s sleep so you wake-up ready to have a great time!
The Day of Your Boudoir Session
- Come prepared with your hair and make-up done
- Wear loose fitting clothing and remove hair ties around your wrists or tight watches so there are no imprints on your skin
- Eat a light meal or snack beforehand (no one wants to be hangry walking in the door)
- Allow yourself plenty of travel time so you’re not feeling rushed when you arrive